Resting In How God Handles “Why?”

Walking in through the back door, I am greeted by the sound of old cartoons and all four of my teenagers relaxing on the sofas and chairs. I smile and move across the living room as I head to the back of the house. My heart treasures these moments. All of the children under one roof as they let down their guard and just rest. They worked hard this morning and then enjoyed time at the pool, but there is more than just the physical exhaustion that they have battled this week.

Early Monday morning I received a call from my mother-in-law. She had bad news. Her niece’s 17-year-old son had died in a fatal car wreck that morning. Our children have grown up sharing Labor Day and Memorial weekends and multitudes of memories together with him. So this was even harder news for our family.

I have sat down multiple times this week to complete a post to share. None seemed appropriate as Scott, and I have found ourselves navigating the waters of helping our children grieve the loss of a cousin the same age as themselves.

We shared the news.

We prayed.

We worked.

We shared memories.

We went through the motions.

We were sustained by God and the prayers of others.

We asked questions.

Yes, questions. It is always hard when something like this happens, and it is our nature to ask Why? But we have a big God who is not afraid of that question, and for that I am thankful. I am also grateful that even when that question never seems to get answered in regards to a seemingly needless loss, God the Father is still good.

So when the waves of grief come at unsuspected times:

We cry.

We share.

We question.

We laugh.

We pray.

Then we praise our Good Father who works out everything in His time.

“There is an occasion for everything, and a time for every activity under heaven:

a time to give birth and a time to die;

a time to plant and a time to uproot;

a time to kill and a time to heal;

a time to tear down and a time to build;

a time to weep and a time to laugh;

a time to mourn and a time to dance;

a time to throw stones and a time to gather stones;

a time to embrace and a time to avoid embracing;

a time to search and a time to count as lost;

a time to keep and a time to throw away;

a time to tear and a time to sew;

a time to be silent and a time to speak;

a time to love and a time to hate;

a time for war and a time for peace.

What does the worker gain from his struggles? I have seen the task that God has given people to keep them occupied.

He has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also put eternity in their hearts, but man cannot discover the work God has done from beginning to end.

I know that there is nothing better for them than to rejoice and enjoy the good life. It is also the gift of God whenever anyone eats, drinks, and enjoys all his efforts.

I know that all God does will last forever; there is no adding to it or taking from it. God works so that people will be in awe of Him.

Whatever is, has already been, and whatever will be, already is. God repeats what has passed.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-15

Treasure your moments today, for tomorrow may never come.

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