The headline read: Having It All and Hating It. The thrust of the article was to show that women who pursued success in a career and a family were not as fulfilled as those who chose one over the other. One woman described the struggle in these terms: “…it’s that holy grail of having a fulfilling career and a fulfilling personal life. I don’t know if it’s possible.”
While her question, as well as the article focused on the struggle women, have in balancing work and family, the real underlying question is one we are all asking.
Can we have it ALL?
The struggle is real whether male or female. We know deep down inside there must be something more. Something better. We move from thing to thing hoping to find something that will fulfill all of us and make us complete. The next job, the next relationship, the next church.
The problem is we are seeking the wrong ALL.
Scripture tells us the all we are seeking is found only in Christ. Colossians 3:11 states: “Christ is all and in all.”
So if Christ is all and in all, then how can we have ALL?
Here are three ways to help focus on having the right ALL in your life.
1. Think about God, not God’s will.
Believers often derail when it comes to living out what God wants them to do because our focus turns too quickly to seeking God’s will instead of the person of Christ. Proverbs 3:5-6 points us in the direction our focus should remain.
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; think about Him in all your ways, and He will guide you on the right paths.”
This verse does not tell us to seek out God’s will but to seek out God. There is a big difference. When we truly begin to think about God in all that we say and do, then our mind and thoughts turn away from our doing and rest on His Being. Who God is begins to infiltrate all that we do so that the peace that passes all understanding guides us (Philippians 4:7). We draw closer to God, and He is glorified. Priscilla Shirer describes it this way:
“The greatest treasure that slips from the pages of the Holy Bible, the one you need above all others, is God Himself.
He is the prize. Not His direction, guidance, and clarity, not even His comfort, relief, and encouragement. Just Him. He is the One who encompasses all you are searching.”
Once we begin thinking about God and who He is, our hearts start to turn, and we move towards gratefulness.
2. Be Thankful
In a day and age where social media plays to our emotions and bends our hearts towards what we don’t have, it is hard to be thankful for what we do have. We forget that gratitude breeds contentment. While scripture beckons us to be content in all things (Philippians 4:12), the biblical concept and belief that thankful people are happier are also backed up scientifically.
“In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.” Harvard Medical School
Part of having ALL is being thankful for ALL that we have in the present. Practicing gratitude moves us back towards a focus on the Giver and not the gifts.
3. Seek the Giver, not the gift
God does not want a relationship where His children only come to Him in search of gifts and blessings. God desires for an intimate relationship with His children. He longs to walk in the garden with us and to share His secrets with us.
When we put forth effort towards seeing God and His righteousness we discover we receive not only Him but ALL other things as well.
“For the idolaters eagerly seek all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.” Matthew 6:32-33
As you go about your day, think about God, give thanks, and seek after the ALL found in Christ Jesus.
We will never have ALL
until we have ALL of Christ.
When we have ALL of Christ,
then ALL we have
is ALL we need.
Will Christ be enough for you today?